Infidelity Center

Infidelity Center

If your marriage is caught in the terrible tragedy of an affair you’ve come to the right place. I specialize in helping couples overcome infidelity and help them towards healing themselves and their marriages. You must know that until the affair is truly over and the spouse has fully committed to the recovery of the marriage, there is very little, if anything we can do to make the marriage better. The affair partner is all the straying spouse can think about. All their focus is on the affair partner and not on the marriage. When the betrayed spouse tries to fix the marriage, the straying spouse sees this as annoying. The straying spouse doesn't want to leave their fantasy relationship, and that is what it truly is - just a fantasy or what I like to call affairy-tale.

So, where do you go from here? We will work on shaking up the affair and the steps to take to end the affair. This can be extremely difficult work to do and very emotionally taxing, but these steps can save your marriage.

This is where a marriage coach can make all the difference in the world. I work with couples every day that are fighting to heal from infidelity. I understand their pain because I've lived it and I can help because I have survived it. I understand how affairs work, how to end them, and how to heal from them. It's a long, hard road to recovery but I'm here to help you every step of the way back to a healthy and happy marriage.

There can be a happy marriage after infidelity. You can repair and recover together from this marriage-smashing event. Whether you are the betrayed spouse wondering what you can do to keep your marriage and your family together or the unfaithful spouse lost in the pain and confusion I will do everything I can to help you heal your marriage, and move forward to recovery.

Infidelity affects an about 80% of marriages. You are not alone. I know that isn't very comforting when you are facing such deep pain and I want you to know that you can recover as many others have. You can actually have a happier marriage after infidelity then you did before. Doing so requires you to take actions which are frightening and which feel like exactly the wrong thing to do at the time. This is true whether you are the betrayed spouse or the wayward spouse. I wish I could make the process easier, I can’t. What I can do is guide you through the maze of conflicting emotions and impulses as you take on this task of reclaiming your marriage.

Your emotions, instincts and reactions will lead you in the wrong direction 99.9% of the time when you are deciding what to do about infidelity.

Ignore almost all of what your straying spouse say they want from you, how they feel about the marriage, threats they make in response to your steps to stop the affair, and all talk about "it’s over, get over it, I love you but I'm not in love with you, and there is no hope."

If you make decisions about what to do about your spouse’s affair on instinct, emotion, or what they say, you will end up make decision you will regret the rest of your life. Emotions, instincts, and the words of a spouse under the influence of an affair are not objective and not made from a place of rational reasoning.

Those that get caught up in affairs are not bad, horrible people. They are just lonely, lost and confused searching for something or someone to make them feel better. This is in no way condoning affairs, I'm just saying that your spouse isn't some horrible monster unworthy of being loved.

When you marry you make a commitment to your spouse to protect and safeguard the marital bond. This isn't hard when there are good times, but when a marriage is rocked by infidelity your ability to do what is necessary in the face of great suffering will be sorely tested. This is crunch time.